what it takes to be a woman...to go away with urself and simply be....

There comes a time in life when one finally get it ... When in the midst of all fears and insanity one stops dead in ones tracks and somewhere the voice inside ones head cries out "ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on." And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, the sobs begin to subside, one shudders once or twice, one blinks back ones tears and through a mantle of wet lashes one begins to look at the world from a new perspective.
One realizes that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something or someone to change, or for happiness safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. One comes to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with oneself. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.You learn that life isn't always fair and one don't always get what we think we deserve, then one bettr stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. one learns to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

And now, one stops looking for guarantees, because one has learned that the only thing one really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, one will have to deal with it...the most important of it all- FEAR itself. to give into fear is to give oneself away the right to live life on ones own terms. One learns that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and one learns to go after what one wants and not to squander ones life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom....